© Alex Harter

98 - 00

From The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

{My notes on margins are few, and I can remember maybe using 3 diagrams maximum}

{DIAGRAM:}

        PHYSICAL ,

     ,->    To Live    \

    /            \/

SPIRITUAL            SOCIAL

To Leave            /EMOTIONAL

A Legacy            To Love

    /\                /

     \    MENTAL    <-‘

       ‘    To Learn

understand = influenced by another    a satisfied need no longer influences

Rmbr.: fast is slow with people, and slow is fast with them.

no quick confidence from others,

no perfect mindsetting, but

confidence in good choices

attitude influences behavior

continuous improvement,

upward spiral, improve other “habits”

        you for me

    we

        me for me

    INTERDEPENDENCE

                personality,

                skills

    I    INDEPENDENCE

I for me            self-master,

                self-control

        DEPENDENCE

    you for me

        you

paradigm = mental image in mind of “aspects of the world” (or just reality).  P shift = new outlook due to new information    apologize = 2 /5

trust = courtesy, kindness, keeping commitments

don’t say “always” or “never”

Understand em. deposits for others.

Not immediate popularity, but building trust up.

            URGENT            NOT URGENT

    IM-        Crises            Preparation

F    POR-        Pressing problems        Prevention

    TANT        Deadline-driven projects,    Value clarification    L

            meetings, presentations    Planning        dif. = importance

                            Relationship building

                            True re-creation

                            Empowerment

    NOT        Interruptions, some        Trivia, busywork

    IM-        phone calls            Some phone calls

P    POR-        Some mail, some reports    Time wasters

    TANT        Some meetings        “Escape” activities    H

            Many proximate,        Irrelevant mail

            pressing matters        Watching TV

            Many popular        excessively

            activities

    you   them

L    win - win

H    win - lose, lose-lose

F    lose - win

P    no deal, lose-lose